Today was a very disappointing evening. I was anxious, I was mad, I was angry, not at my husband but at the situation there we were in. His work was delayed due to unforeseen circumstances (Particularly because of a contractor’s irresponsibility and punctuality issues) which caused the whole project to be delayed. Long story short, it was like a never-ending wait from 6pm all the way till 830pm when I decided to give up.
Let’s just say that this Valentine’s Day meant something to us, because it’s our first as husband and wife. To many, it’s probably just like any other day.
As cliche as it can be, everyday is Valentine’s Day if you are in love.
But at that very heated moment, it’s just difficult to accept that our plans got screwed up at the last minute, and the worse thing is that we wouldn’t know whether the dinner was still possible. That anxiety and uncertainty was the killer. That’s not the worst, he had to go to another event venue at 10pm. So having dinner late wasn’t an option.
At almost 830pm, I decided to give up while I was stranded along Orchard Road on the way to our dinner place.
Thankfully, my parents were around the area so they called me up and offered to let me choose what I want to have for dinner with them at town. (Best parents ever) As much as I didn’t blame my husband for the unfortunate incident, my parents did remind me that he would be in a worse situation of guilt and stress seeing me unhappy.
I then realise that the date wasn’t the real issue. It was because of the last minute changes that frustrated me so much, and it worsened with the meaning of the date of course. But I also learned that I should be supportive in his career, and it’s not only about not putting the blame on him, but easing his guilt as well.
And yes of course I did message him after I cooled down that I’m feeling much better and he need not worry so much 🙂
Valentine’s Day isn’t only about showing love and celebrating over dinner. But it’s about appreciating the love between us and proving in actions even as small as being understanding and supportive in the marriage. And that is what makes everyday Valentine’s Day.
